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Originally Posted by Fartraveler
Losing a parent is really tough, that's all I can say.
My sister's a therapist, and when our dad died, she rearranged her therapy schedule for at least 2 months (between being with Dad while he was sick, and then dealing with the funeral and so on, and dealing with other family disruptions.)
The stress, the feeling of being suddenly unanchored -- for us, that lasted a while.
I agree that you should talk to her about it some more. (But maybe she is just having a hard time adjusting to her mom's death.)
-Far
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Hi Fartraveler,
I've been trying to keep in mind that my t is going through a major life transition. I've tried to be compassionate and not demanding or critical. I even mentioned to her that i'd read where if you're going through a major life crisis, you shouldn't make any big decisions, so i'd try not to bug her to tell me what she's going to do as far as retirement. But inside, it's a fear i've always had, since the beginning when we first started working together years ago. I think the fear of the end has always kept me from being able to truly attach in a secure way, and has kept me switching back and forth from getting courage enough to trust and connect and work on trauma -- but then getting scared and detaching again. I wish that i had known when we first started working together that we'd be working together for several years. Then i would not have spent all that time worrying about the end and being afraid to attach. Now, we don't have much time left.