He's 30 (but looks much older) and I'm 34 (but look much younger). He's a housemate with issues of abandonment (his father dumped them when he was 4) and raised by a mom who's been married 4 times.....(= yea, what a mess).

I fell madly in love with him from the first 5 seconds I saw him. Not a mutual sentiment, unfortunately. Anyhow, one day I did the unthinkable (was it a craze of hormones??) and kissed him gently on his neck. It didn't go well...and I got rejected big time.

I took the rejection like a champ. My attitude was "oh, so sorry, I just really liked you and thought of expressing it in this manner. I apologize. It won't happen again, try taking it as a compliment". I thought that was honorable of me and very mature. I also told him that he is valuable to me as a person and that I would still like to keep him in my life as a friend.

Several months have passed and yes, we've maintained some sort of friendship. Here is the problem: HIS MOM! Before the incident she was so nice to me, hugged me, cared for me as if she was my own mom. I really did start to develop loving feelings for this woman. A week after the incident, she visits the house again (she visits often) but this time she was cold and distant. Those super-cold vibes were hard not to notice!!! That's when I started to suspect that "she knows".....
So, I confronted the guy asking him if he told anything to her. He admitted that he did. He told both his mom and his sister!!!!!!!!! He said that they kept asking him about me and it just came out of his mouth...!!!!! I'm like "what the.....!!!!". How and why would a grown man say something like this to his mom in the first place?!

The problem has been that every time his mom comes to visit she really behaves like she's above me and that I'm inferior and most definitely not good enough for her son. I think she's sinking this message to her son's brain to make sure he'd never give me a chance. Somewhat I understand her point of view because I am 4 years older than him, he could totally score better. But...when I really see myself, I see a nice girl, sweet, cute, loving with a lot to offer so....why the heck not?!
Every time she comes over I treat her with respect but I can feel -and see- her disapproval of me entirely as an existence and that really brings me down. I mean, she is the mom of the man I love the most. And sure, I'll just be friends with him since he can't love me but seriously...how do I get her to stop being like this? How do I get her to respect me? Was it really that horrible that this girl -me- kissed her son?? Was it "such" a bad thing that I "dared" to do that?

Thank you for your time to read this.