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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
I told him that I needed to be heard and understood. He said that it was very clear and that he understood.
Apparently, that wasn't enough. So, I asked him if he had feedback. He said, "I thought you just wanted to be heard and understood"...and I said that apparently that doesn't feel like enough.
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I'm confused here. What did he say was clear? Why did you feel that it wasn't enough (maybe this will be clear after you answer my first question).
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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
He went on to talk about how he can't promise the level of consistency that I seem to want - and said stuff about him not believing in experiencing transference and counter-transference - but rather that it is a real relationship where he is affected by his clients, ..... and that he is affected, more than a therapist/client - so his reactions are real, and that it is not his nature or character to be detached.
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Hmmmm, these beliefs of his seem to be at the heart of what is causing the problems.
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