Once he acknowledged that he read it, etc....I sat for a minute and felt that it was not satisfying. I told T I didn't know why, but it doesn't feel like enough. Yes, modeling healthy behavior was part of my writing.

Perhaps if I asked him to read it outloud...or I read it outloud to him...or if he said something about each point, acknowledging more than just "I read it"....maybe that would've made a difference.

Maybe I want a commitment from him that he can't or won't give me....to not do this to me again. I don't know. He said he would try to be more gentle in the future. He recognized and took ownership of his contributions. What more could I want? I guess it's that I'm just not ok with it all. Maybe I don't have to be right now. Maybe that will come in time. I wish I had a magic therapy 8-ball that could give me the answers....