i think there is a difference between just hearing your words, which he did, and really getting it or understanding where you were coming from. it doesn't sound like he "got it" to me, that you were truly understood or validated. it was more just him letting you say your piece. i think your T is who he is and while he'll try to do better he isn't going to be anyone other than the T he is. if that is enough for you then that is great but if you want a consistently compassionate, gentle and supportive T then you will probably not find that with him as it doesn't sound like his style. i think the question is looking at the long-term will you be able to make progress with the type of T that he is or would you be better off with someone with a gentler style. i know you are very attached to your T but ultimately if you stick with him another couple of years mostly out of affection rather than what is best for you you may not be able to make as much progress in therapy as you'd like. i think you have to think like a parent here and detach a bit from your own feelings of attachment for him and decide if he is someone who can truly help you or if you need a different type of therapy. some therapists i listen to on the radio say "play the movie" i.e. imagine what you think will likely happen in the future based on your past history with him and think about if that is the best outcome for you.