Hey Hal... I, like Liam, have been struggling with this as well.

My position is a little different, in that I am married... and I know she is too. I went in for something completely different... and then fell for her. There's several other complications as well...

Regardless, when you start digging around on the internet about this thing, you'll find that therapists, especially female ones, do not go for their clients, unless you are some super stud that can get anyone you want and they don't care about keeping their job. She may care for you... but if you are looking for a romantic relationship, about all you can expect from yours (as mine) is to learn how to possibly start one... to get to know how to talk to a woman... to be comforted by one... to be able to speak your mind to one... and possibly on the process, learn to talk and speak your mind to a "real" one.

I cannot tell you what you should do... but there are really 2 options. Tell her, and see if there is anything you can learn from it (which I have done)... or decide to stop it because the pain is too great, which is also where I am leaning because of my situation... and the impossibility of it all. If you seek to learn more about relationships with women because you are lonely or whatever, see if there is anything to learn from her that can make paying the money and dealing with the pain worthwhile. If you are really trying to deal with something else and in need of therapy, find a man or someone you could not possibly fall for.

In the end when you look at all this, it sucks... but then you started this for you... and if you are hurting more than when you started, there is no point in making matters worse, unless you are willing to try and learn something which can be made to apply elsewhere. She may be able to help in this regard...

I feel for you... and wish you the best...