What does "consistency" mean? How would you like him to be more consistent than he says he is capable of? I think for anyone who is modestly genuine and authentic, consistency is not that hard. So I'm not sure what he means. It sounds bad to be incapable of being consistent, like a statement from a person who doesn't know who he is. Or maybe a person who is extremely moody and volatile, so when you show up for therapy each week, you don't know what T will be there with you.

MUE, it seems like the current problem with your T stems from your interactions during the group session. Maybe you could quit group and eliminate that source of tension between you. It seems like group therapy is interfering with your individual therapy and your relationship with your T. Therapists and clients are recommended not to have dual relationships for just this reason--the other relationship can interfere with and harm the therapeutic relationship, which should be primary. If you don't want to quit group, perhaps you could take a break from it until you get things sorted out in individual therapy with your T. It could be a challenge to put this back together, so eliminating some of the stresses on the relationship could be helpful during this period of vulnerability.

Good luck with this--at least you are on speaking terms and trying to work it out. And good luck with your court date--yuck!