not directed at anyone specific, just clicking on the last post in reading cause right now Im too lazy to find a place to fit this random thought...

I don't go around "hugging" just anyone partly because I have been taught in Domestic Violence groups, Rape Crisis Centers, and mental health groups that I and everyone else has their own personal space and regardless of the person (stranger, relative, friend and so on) should always wait to be asked for a hug and or ask the person if they would like a hug before giving hugs otherwise the giver of hugs runs the danger of invading a persons personal space and being considered an abuser because giving hugs without permission and or against a persons will is considered abuse.

Maybe the people who keep appearing in kudos for hugs and recieving hugs also follow this type of teaching so they are only hugging those they know for sure accept hugs because the person they are hugging has asked for one or more from them or have told them it was ok to hug them.

If I don't tell someone I want a hug or need a hug how are they going to know that its ok for them to hug me? They don't.

Yea its hard to ask for a hug. instead of expecting everyone to hug everyone so no one feels left out (because a person could accidentally hug someone who does not want a hug) how about starting and pinning a thread either here or in kudos or both saying I like hugs and then all the person needs to do is add their name to the list.

That way people will know who accepts hugs and doesn't and when people see someone who may need a hug they can look at the list and see the persons name on the list and feel comfortable giving a hug without feeling like they are overstepping someones space because the person needing the hug can't ask for the hugs.

This way those that need hugs get them, those that don't want them wont get them and those that give hugs will knoww its safe to give them and to who.