Hmmmm....true Malachite....I imagine I have not answered your question.My first reply was with negative memories in my head...a sort of projection of watching mum and her men be disrespectful toward each other.If I were to step back and see this from a mans perspective,I imagine I would be frustrated.Yet I do not know the dynamics of the division of household responsibilities .I am very traditional.That is likely to spark a debate in forum.I think if one mate works,the heavier bit of things falls to the at home mate....if both work...things should be divided.If one does their part and the other does nothing...it'd make me feel used.I personally am going thru fire here at home...I have issues where I am not in the house when he is here...I am in my camper.But it is as it had been b4.He works ...I don't.Therefore I clean the house cook,and shop.Ummmm.....if I had a wife...and I worked,and I came home all the time to the house being nasty...I'd inquire as to what the issue was.....and go from there.What're your circumstances?Then I could answer better if you like.TC Malachite.~W~