Uh, from what I've read, psychdynamic/psychoanalytic is not all that helpful for borderlines.......
Also, while past experiences with parent or authority figures is interesting, it's a pretty depressing route for a borderline to go. We have relational conflicts, instability. Period. So when we interact with people in power, not only are we unstable and insecure, but we feel that we are treated unfairly, misunderstood, etc. and the emotions are all heightened because more is at stake.
And, you might do well to look at the biological components of the disorder and neurological characteristics and how therapy might "re-reroute" that wiring, change the pre-fontal lobe--which seems to be susceptible to change through meditation.
We tend to want to blame people a lot. What good does that do? Unless we've actually experienced abuse and need the validation that what we know happened really did happen (even though we've been threatened and warned and so on to believe it didn't). The issues are more our (over?--debatable)-sensitivity, our lack of an intact ego--hence our need to absorb others completely so that we, actually, "use" their egos as our own------so the threat of their leaving isn't just normal grief and loss, it is experienced as a loss of ourselves and leads to a kind of breakdown---and we damn well know it, it hurts like hell, and we will do anything we can to avoid it...........uh...stuff like that.
We can rehearse our pain all you want. But what can you do for us? What are your crazy ideas that you want to try out on us, that we can verify or criticize?
Thanks for wanting to help us, but let's get to it. The DSM will tell you the symptoms, and there are personal accounts to read that give you as good a stories of the inside out experience of the disorder and therapy. There probably aren't any shortcuts you should take...
Valerie Porr's new book--Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder is a good place to start for an idea of what is needed in altering the attitudes toward and treatment of borderlines.
There is more literature about borderline personality disorder than about all of the other personality disorders combined (even though it affects a small percent of people)-because it is the most difficult to treat. So there is information out there.
What we might be able to do for you is give you an opportunity to interact with borderlines--not as a therapist or a student--but as a plain ol' person. That's what therapists are afraid of: the intensity of our interactions (my post is, perhaps, a case in point?). So, the one-way-street-thing is of no interest to me. If you want to practice the "therapist stance" with me, uh....yuck.