OH... well it is in General Forum . I was answering something IVE learned. But, now that you mention it, your original posts implied that it's not healthy to have expectations. Going from my point of view that you said often is different from eveyone elses ( and like you said you like that about me?)...

imo it's ok to have expectations. It's part of learning to trust. If someone is devastated because of unrealistic expectations that aren't granted by the universe... that's a therapy issue. It's much easier, for those who have trust issues, to have black and white thinking. It probably feels safer.. "either you're with me or against me" when in reality, life and people aren't so cut and dry.

Good therapy is based on expectations.
Life is based on expectations... it isn't healthy to feel as though you have to do it all yourself, rely only upon yourself.

You expect your scooter to work and carry you, and rely upon it... or you wouldn't even sit on it. Stuff like that....

Whatever boundaries someone needs to have, that's nothing against me and is ok with me. .. but just because it's one of your boundaries doesn't make it right for others, nor even healthy for anyone. It's a generalization that is included in the Cognitive Distortions.

TC