I understand your feelings, when we get attached to our T because of the relation we have with them, it's a natural response to the situation.....however one needs to step back & really look at what really happened. It's so easy for our emotions to blow the situations we are in out of proportion.....need to stop & look at all sides of the situation starting from the beginning conversation which was where all your emotions came from.

If your T didn't feel that she did anything out of line then obviously she wouldn't feel that she had done anything wrong & there initially there weren't any actions that she needed to own. You need to listen to her & HEAR what she has to say without your mind closing off everything she has to say. Sometimes minds are so sure that they are right, they don't hear anything else that anyone else has to say. You need to be open to the fact that maybe your perception of what happened might not be 100% correct & not go in on Monday with a closed mind putting all the responsibility of what happened on your T.

It's sort of like driving on the freeway....there are times when we might make a mistake in our driving that causes someone behind us to end up in an accident that we are completely unaware of because we weren't physically involved in the accident even though it was something in our driving that caused another driver to react & end up in an accident.

Your T (the driver whose driving initiated the accident) who is continuing about her business....oblivious to the fact that she had the effect that she had on you......you (the auto accident that was caused by the unaware driver) are devistated by how your T responded on the phone. Know it doesn't feel good & your reaction is understandable.....but just like the driver, think your T had no idea of the accident she caused or she would have called by now.

How is she going to know how you feel if you don't talk to her about it since she is not aware of how you are reacting let along the fact that it doesn't seem like she's aware that she even did anything that would have bothered you. Communication is very important in situations like this. If you don't express your hurt....you just sit there stewing in it & end up hurting more & more......while T doesn't even know that she did anything or even that you are hurting the way you are.

Too many times we allow situations like this to destroy relationships. Similar situations happen in marriages between husband & wife also. Without the communication about feelings & how things effect you, there is no way that others can read our minds.......need to communicate with your T about your feelings. Not sure why her reaction was the way it was.....but sure in her mind, she has her own rational as to why she did what she did or she wouldn't have done it either.....doesn't mean it's right......but understanding that there was something going on with her at that time is also a good place to start & sort it out together at your next appointment. No need to throw everything away because of a misunderstanding on all parts.

Interesting, I experiences a similar situation....I was asked for my opinion on something.....when I finally decided to figure out what my opinion was & end of giving my opinion, I was accused of criticizing when I was very careful NOT to criticize...but the other person saw it that way. Anything I tried to say in my defense ended up being attacked along with other things that had absolutely Nothing to do with the situation. So I stopped all communication. Awhile later the person wanted to heal the friendship......what I realized was that the person only wanted me to apologize for the criticizing that she accused me of which was something that I didn't do. Apologizing for something that I know I didn't do isn't something that I am capable of doing. The boundaries that were crossed were on her accusations.....needless to say, it was impossible to resolve anything in that relationship....but if the other person had really been willing to see the situation from all sides....I saw all sides & understood where that person was coming from & knew that if I ended up apologizing for something that I didn't do in would only be encouraging more of that behavior. Don't think that person will ever change, but it they ever are willing to step back, then they will be able to see the reality of what happened.

It's a difficult place to be in when communication is difficult....but seeing & understanding all sides is very important....going back to your initial phone conversation that caused the problem in the first place.

Wishing you the best at your appointment on Monday.....it's important to go & work through this & let your mind be open to see things in a different way than the way it's looking at things right now......those Ah ha moments are really awesome when we end up seeing things more clearly & getting those emotions put where they belong.