Hi there... I think you're doing the right thing sticking with him till diagnoses and treatment. When I was finally diagnosed it took about six months to get the right meds for me, and they made a huge difference.

A previous partner of mine is currently waiting to see a psychiatrist about whether he has bipolar or not. He's just wrecked a loving relationship with his wife, by saying the exact same thing... that he wasn't in love with her anymore. Then he came off his antidepressants (which weren't working) went manic, and became besotted with someone else... he's currently left his job, his home, and is spending every moment with this new woman.

If only his diagnoses had come in time, I think it would have made a difference. I'm glad that your husband has such a supportive wife, and that your children have such a lovely mother. Look after yourself, and bear in mind it does get better.