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Old Feb 04, 2011, 04:28 PM
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We began, six months ago, with the express purpose of improving my relations with others connected with my business and thereby improving my business itself which has been very negatively affected by the current economic conditions. We intended to achieve this aim through psychodynamic psychotherapy with sessions once or twice a week depending on perceived need.

So far as it appears to me, through our interactions and your interventions and explanations, there has been progress of three kinds.

First, my perception of myself and my relations to others has changed, with the altered perceptions helping me to understand why I do what I do (or don't do), particularly in connection with improving my current financial condition but also helping me to understand my entire life, with all its ups and downs.

Second, I have actually been able to change certain aspects of my relations with others based on the improved perceptions described above. This in turn has led to decreased anxiety and depression, and an easier social give-and-take.

Third, I have made progress on, but not entirely eliminated, the suicidal thinking in which I've engaged over the past three years. I now see that, to a great extent, such a gross measure isn't really necessary to eliminate my mental pain, even if, at any given point in time, I don't see any other option. There is such a thing as having faith in one's self, which makes such drastic steps unnecessary. And I've made some progress in the direction of such faith. But I certainly do need to do more in this regard.

Finally, having improved to this point, it's possible for me now to have a better idea of what we should do next and what new (or better formulated) goals I should now set for myself.

As to point 1: I've become acquainted with a new word and concept: dissociation. I have learned that my entire life, since infancy until now, has been ruled by dissociation in several shapes. I have learned that the dissociation was prompted by an unhappy infancy related to my mom's incapacity to relate to me in the way babies normally relate to normal mothers. You have shown me how this is proven not only by my own life history but also by those of my three brothers.

As to point 2: However amazingly self-evident and obvious this may sound, I've learned in our work together that in my interactions with others on whom my business depends I need to focus on the other person's experiences, on what is important to them, and on how they are doing rather than on my own situation. It is completely astonishing to me that I would not before have thought of this on my own. But the truth is I haven't. And now I can, and it works. Further, I now know better how to assertively project my personality into a group meeting and achieve the tasks allotted to me in my particular role.

Third, I have reduced my suicidal thinking to tiny "flashes" now and then, in which, while doing other things, a one or two-second "picture" of a suicidal act flashes through my mind. Nor are these very frequent. Nor do I pay much attention to them. If and when I can get our family finances on an even keel, I do believe I can do without even these flashes.

As to the final point, I would now like to include in my goals a greater elimination of my dissociative tendencies, which are still a large problem and very much get in the way of my using my time constructively. I would also like to make as sure as I can that my perceptions of individuals and groups around me are as realistic and accurate as possible, in contrast with the very distorted perceptions I've had in the past all my life.

Another, annual report will follow this in August, 2011.
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