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Here is a good link about exactly this topic; there is a quiz, and a description about the 5 Conflict Styles. I learned this recently in a Conflict Management course I took this past term:

http://conflict911.com/cgi-bin/links/jump.cgi?ID=5009

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Lmo, Thanks for that, I did the test and came out as a compromiser and avoider - no surprises there then!

Piggysmile,

IMHO toleration is not a big part of a good relationship. In a good relationship you don't feel the need to suppress yourself.

This is not to say that we don't tolerate things about the people we care for, like if they are a noisy eater or something, but if their behaviour upsets us all the time, then there is a lack of balance.

A good relationship means that both people find it good, not just one of them.

Hope things improve for you.

Cheers, M