It sounds like there are several reasons that this pdoc isn't the one for you. I'd try to get the referral first. We're not always going to like the dr's that we see. I know that, when I was seeing a p'doc, I didn't care for the first one at all. I went to a second one and he was alright...just alright though. He was inconsistent, then even inappropriate on a few occasions. He was the one who recommended me to therapy. I stopped seeing him shortly after I began talk therapy.

I wish you luck in getting the referral, and finding a new p'doc if that's what you decide to do!

I hope you let us know how it goes.

KD