Thanks for taking the time to read my post and to reply, Lee, I really appreciate it.

I"m just having a little bit of trouble with everyone immediately telling me to drop my best friend of three years at the drop of a hate for a REALLY poor decision he made that doesn't directly impact my life. Wouldn't it be better for me to stick around and guide him in the right direction; call him out on his bs actions? Make sure he doesn't make this mistake again? Make sure he understands what he is doing? This is a friend who has never intentionally hurt me; who has often been kinder to me than my boyfriend knew how, who truly knows me and doesn't reject me for who I am. I have trouble throwing that away when I know he would never throw me away.

I'm also far more upset with the girl involved in all of this than I am with my best friend. My friend told me today that she has bipolar (she did tell him), and that she is prescribed lithium. Brilliant girl that she is knows that if she takes the full and proper dose then she won't have the impulse to get black out drunk and sleep with every guy she sees. So what does she do? Doesn't take the full dose. She also was the one who came on to my friend first (I know this doesn't excuse his actions in any way), yet she refuses to leave her boyfriend because "she loves him." Personally, I figure if you love someone, you would do everything in your power to make that relationship healthy, stable, secure, including taking your medications, but then, that's just my opinion. For me, the person who has the most blame, although cheating takes two to tango and both are guilty of wrongdoing, is the person in the relationship. I've dealt with cheating before so I know how much it hurts and destroys you and your relationship, and I have trouble understand why anyone who says they love another human being would intentionally hurt them for their own fleeting pleasure.

Anyways, back to my friend. I made it clear that I do not approve of this at all. I really told him everything on my mind, how disappointed and angry I was, how if I met him today we probably wouldn't become friends, the whole nine yards. I also made a point of saying that I don't think he should even talk to this girl. I think I really got through to him. I actually made him cry; he was so afraid of losing me as a friend. I feel like this made him realize that doing what he did is not making him the person he wants to be, especially if the person he wants to be values our friendship and my opinion of him. I feel like that sounds a little high and mighty of me, but what are friends and lovers for if not to make ourselves better and happier people?

Anyways, thanks for reading and letting me vent. If anyone else has opinions how I should handle this or what I should have done differently, I'd love to hear them. I feel like I need to guide him in the right direction, almost like a parent. Thanks again!