I'm sorry Can't stop crying, I wish I had that kind of wisdom. I am one of the believers in God will heal. He has with me, it has taken time, blood, sweat, tears, pain, emotional digging and mostly the Lord but I was healed and one day you will be as well. I'm sorry your father did that too you, too many of us can relate to stories as this and it's horrifying and makes me want to cry my eyes out hearing about it happening to others. I am deeply sorry for your pain and if I could, even not knowing you, I would take your place to take away that pain from anyone. I wish I could but know there are people here that understand and wish they could take it away too.

When it comes to people upsetting you with nasty remarks, I can't really answer that question either. Lately though I've learned a new strategy with dealing with those people, and the people who hurt me. I got tired of being angry and realized that it did nothing for me but drive me into deeper holes. You have to learn to accept that some people, no matter how hard you try or how much you want them to, will not change for anything. They are who they are and there is nothing you can do about it. They may be cruel to you with their words and they may rile you up and seem inconsiderate but who knows what they are dealing with and who knows what they will have to deal with for treating you this way. It does come back around even if you don't see it happen to them. When you are happy you don't look to bring someone else down, you only do this if you have strong emotions boiling inside of you, so chances are these people are suffering inside much more from their own flaws then they would by any word we could say to them. It's all about acceptance and realizing that their words only have as much power as you give them.

As far as your third question goes... I struggled with that question in reguards to my father the entire time he was growing up. While my brother lied and said he was a NFL football player up north, I on the other hand would tell my whole life story to anyone who would ask. I needed to vent and thought others wanted to hear. They don't. On here though they do more then other times. What I tend to do now is keep it very simple. All I say to anyone who asks where my father is, that he's in Florida. Plain and simple. If they ask why I say he lives there. They don't have to know how often you see him or what he has done, all they need to know is that he is not there. If your parents are within speaking range just make up them living across the country and leave it at that. Most of the time people tend to accept that as an answer.

I'm happy to see that you are away from the environment, it's a wonderful thing to be free from that abuse, although it's such a terrible thing it happened before. I'm sorry I couldn't give the golden words that make everything better but please do know we do care and we are here for you anytime you need it!