I find anger really difficult too. I'm scared of it, and I'm scared of feeling it.

T is helping me see that sometimes I'm angry and I don't even KNOW it. I remember once I was laying on the couch and he told me I looked like a little fiery dragon (?). Which actually made me angrier! lol It helps me when T helps me recognize when I am angry. Then we can talk about it, and I can find out that it's okay.

For me, it's something that's just occurred naturally during therapy...not something forced. I think as I began to feel safer with T, some anger started to surface. I know that there is still a lot of grief, and probably anger, under the surface. Sometimes now I'll feel a little surge of anger and recognize it - and I'll tell T and we'll talk about it.

It's really hard, but it gets easier.