Sunrise, yes, I felt it was somewhat dishonest. It was something he honestly meant, though, just the fact that he said it in a confrontational way seemed either contrived or genuinely mean.

It definitely led to distrust and to me almost not going back. This happened in couples therapy. The t pushed both me and my ex sometimes. I wonder if couples therapy is more likely to be confrontational like that.

Thanks for the link, WePow. It's helpful to read how they think you should express anger. I don't express much anger in most situations. In relationships sometimes I loose my temper . Sometimes people seem to think I should express it more and sometimes less, or maybe just differently.

I haven't brought it up with my current t yet .