etall, when I entered therapy I told T that I did not wish to become some sociable creature, I enjoy my reclusiveness, though I am married with children, and T would smile and I took that smile as a threat, I've every now and again repeated that first demand, whenever I feel myslef opening to my human needs, and blamed T and therapy...when one enters therapy, you must be prepared for change, but your looking at change from an unchanged point of view and coming up with the same answers...therapy doesn't mean you will suddenly throw yourself into something you don't want, but it will enable you to choose and not be driven or held hostage by old wounds, and yes negative transference does occur...is where I've done most of my work...