Hi Peanut. It seems odd that I should try to respond to one of your queries... I think the operative word you used is ReACT. We all get into trouble when we react instead of ReSPOND to a situation. Unfortunately trauma changes things. really... in the brain. The event itself is not filed away properly so we "can't get over it" and it continues to intrude because it isnt catagorized correctly by the brain. (As something in the past, not now urgent, not in the present.) And that can be with EACH event... so then what we have is a reaction to every thing that is a trigger... lots of them. It takes time, and someone with stress counseling expertise to help us begin to realize those triggers, and how we react, to the point that we respond correctly, and can "see it coming" before it just hits us. Does this make sense to you?