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Originally Posted by Can't Stop Crying
1. I need to vent....I am tired about hearing how God can heal me. If I had cancer, would they tell me that? There was no god in that room when my father was stealing my innocence
2. How do you respond to insensitive, hurtful, and/or unsupportive comments by others? It hurts to see that, what's an appropriate response?
3. How do you respond to questions about your parents (when they were your abusers) My parents are very much alive, but I have had no contact with them in years. They are dead to me, but I don't feel comfortable saying they're dead to others. Any good responses?
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1.When People tell you God can heal you, they mean it well - personally, i lost my faith a long time ago, but have learned to respect that others need to have something to believe in. I believe in ME. I helped myself feel better. but that's just my opinion.
2.So many people don't understand your situation - I think it's best to disengage and just change the subject or get away from those people - getting more upset, arguing, etc only makes you feel worse.
3.My answer to the question about your parents would be a simple "we don't speak" or " I think they are in ____" and if anyone asks anymore questions, I've learned to say, "i don't discuss this/them" and move the conversation to something else.
There was a point where I changed my thought process from being a victim to being a survivor. That has made a huge difference in my life.
