It's so hard to see a friendship dwindle! When it's happened to me, I think, "What did I do 'wrong'? What can I do so she likes me again? How was I 'bad'?" Pure childhood reaction, of course. So I used to work frantically to save the relationship--reach out more, try to talk about what was going on, etc. It's taken me a while, but now I realize I am not the only person in a relationship. If the other person stops putting as much into it as I do, then the relationship will fade away, and that doesn't make it 'my fault.'

It also helps me to realize that I don't have to see it in black & white. The friend lets our relationship end...that doesn't make her bad or evil. I don't do anything to save it...that doesn't mean I don't value what we had. It's sad, but it's not the end of my world, I can be sure of making new friends. Seeing life as a series of relationships that grow and fade has helped me.

I hope you have a lovely vacation.