maybe knowing something my therapist and psychiatrist told me will help you - everything you are experiencing now after you have been diagnosed is the same as whats been going on all your life. being diagnosed doesnt change anything other than gives a name to what all your past and present problems are.

back before you were diagnosed did you work at trying to get your alters to get along and stop fighting... probably not if you are like millions of others that are DID.

my suggestion relax. breath and not try so hard. Take it one step at a time with the help of your therapist guiding the way. your therapist is the one that knows what your full problems are and how to guide you through this at a pace that is right for you.

BY the way we cant tell you what to do or how to do things. all we can do is tell you how we managed such situations. with my therapist and I we just let it all happen. we took the attitude that before I knew I was DID everything was fine, my alters all have their own purposes, jobs and reasons for being here so let them do their jobs. its only after I tried to make them be the way I wanted them, trying to force things, that they began fighting over who came out when and for what. so we went back to letting them do what ever they were there for and my learning to take care of my own problems. as they saw I was capable of taking on more they stepped coming out so much and eventually integrated with me.

Take it slow, one step at a time and follow what ever your own treatment plans are that your therapist is helping you with and all will soon be ok again. they will figure out on their own who comes out when and for what. they did so all these years right so they will do that just fine now without your help.