At first I clicked on your post because it fit....one of my sons just yelled at me "you are f.... crazy!" So, crazy is as crazy does. LOL! Guess if you have a mind, you , me and them at one time or another are going to be, or see...crazy.

Here are my thoughts on your crazy making situation:-)

Everyone living in a household and contributing to household mess are responsible to help with community chores.
Floor dirty? well you all walk on it. Dishes? wash them after you eat. Use the toilet..
keep it clean. Trash all over? get a trash bag, put on some music on, and pick it up.

At the minimum, clean and pick up what you dirty and do.

You leave out information like the health of your aunt? is she well, sick, disabled?
Is your Mom? Does your Mom work an outside job? Those things would make a difference who does what.

But I think the biggest lesson here is....we as humans do not live on our own little islands. We are all connected. And making a cleaner home or a cleaner world and everything else in between...takes a conscious awareness that if it doesn't get done, every person is responsible for the mess that is left.
The belief that "this mess ain't mine"....and "no one is helping me, so to hell with it..."
just doesn't fly.
Just one person has the power to make an incredible difference.
Believe that truth!
Hope I do not sound like I am lecturing, don't mean to come off like that.

We can not control what other people do or say, but we can control what we do or say, and you can be the change that others may follow.

Good luck! and I really like the quotes at end of your message, it fits my situation for sure, thanks.

Tell your Mom you just heard from a Mom, me, and I have received a lot of help and insights here..tell her I said...come on over!