Hi Steve,

I agree with Dave, and it`s an common place in psychology, that people who tend to control others are usualy unsecure.

The good advice is to work on the problem with your T. Despite you think that everything is just a part of your character, there may be and other things which "helped" you to develop in this direction.

It could happened that one "invisible" event from your past, put you in this behavior pattern.

Very important is also to talk to your wife about your feeling and reactions. TC