You are so brave for sharing.
One of the horrors of all this is dealing with those that have perpetuated or enabled our traumas. You have a right to each and every one of your feelings and no one can or should tell you that you can't.
That isn't a license to do things that are hurtful to yourself, but more of a recognition that you've got every right to your own emotional space and that if others in your life want to change the past, or make it as though it never happened, that is their choice, but it doesn't need to be yours.
Big hug, in this place, you are free to be your own and we love you because of that.