Hi, twistedmoon, I'm sorry you and your marriage are going through this really tough time now. Maybe a bit of a separation would help some, with the law stepping in to take custody of him for awhile so he can be forced to do some thinking away from you and you can get your own life more back on track and do some thinking in your own space too? I know the separation prison brings and its difficulties but it can also be a time out space where better things might grow if one wants to work at that?