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Originally Posted by harrietm
If you have been let down by so many people who have offered to help, how can your t say that your expectations of others are unrealistic? That seems judgmental to me. You are telling her about your experiences with others in the past, and it seems to be a pattern of people offering to help and then backing away, letting you down. So of course you would have lower expectations of people now. To me that is realistic, not unrealistic.
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I agree that my expectations seem realistic. My therapist feels that because I have negative expectations from everyone, I am not being realistic about it. I tend to jump to the negative whenever I am uncomfortable about a comment someone makes, or maybe the way they are acting. I tend to think, "Why are they acting like that? I must have done something." When in reality, their actions have absolutely nothing to do with me at all.
We are trying to reprogram my thinking into not trying to take ownership for everyone's mood around me. I need to realize that THEY own that comment or action. I did nothing to cause it. Does this make sense? It is hard to explain.