I had to deal with this when my mother was getting sicker both physically and mentally. To make it short, she was verbally abusive with me and tried to drive a wedge between me and my teenage son.

I wouldn't let her do it and no amount of guilt made me allow her to do it, but she did do things behind my back, such as picking my kid up from school, behind my back, so she could bad mouth me and my husband to our son.

Well, one day she was in a car accident (which is why I didn't want her driving him in the first place), and she was hurt and he wasn't (thank G-d for that). After finding out that she'd been disobeying our rules to not let him drive with her (diabetes and bad eyesight).....I took care of her needs until she was stable and at home and could get around. She wouldn't stop driving, nor move closer to me, so that I could assist her.

She finally got diabetic ulcers, kidney failure, etc., and when she was in a nursing home, we were able to make up and she died in peace, last April.

I will never know what made her so crazy, in the first place, but at least my visiting her in the home and at the hospital, I was able to make peace with myself.

There isn't a good way for this to end or happen, but I did make the most of trying to take care of her as much as I could.

A mother is a mother, but there is no narcissistic drama ongoing anymore, and for that, I am glad.