was gonna leave a hug here but then wanted to say something. ohhh i understand that anger. when it's just not fair that we don't get heard or have our feelings validated by the very person(s) that abused us, it really pis*** me off.

your abuser who actually did all that stuff is the one in the most denial. and to have your brother do that too, when he was also a target for her wrath, makes absolutely no sense. my bro**** was/is one of my abusers (not physically) and i've chosen to completely back off, not allow any phone calls, or any contact at all because he just doesn't "get it" and i refuse to waste any of my precious time on him anymore.

but hon, these people never will "get it". that would mean they'd have to admit they did something aggregiously wrong and they will go to hell and back before they ever admit any culpability in such a heinous crime.

i am so proud of you for not hurting yourself. you are a winner through and through and you are totally in the right in wanting to have nothing to do with her. in a world where true justice rules, those people would be serving the rest of their lives behind bars. but we don't live in a perfect world, but know this...some day hon, some day, they will be held accountable.

i'm sorry for being so outspoken, but your post really struck a nerve in me. bless you and please continue to claim your life for YOU.

many hugs coming your way