Thanks WePow - that's a good idea and I like the indirect approach. Unfortunately, my T knows how little support I have in the way of friends and just last night I was telling her how lonely I was because I haven't been able to get together with the only 2 friends I do have - my H travels all the time and I am busy with my kids and my job. No time for me.

Cautious - I don't think she is in crisis. Her depression was 20 years ago, and the death of her dad was a long time ago as well. One time I asked her if it was hard for her to talk to clients (like me) about the topic of suicide because of what she went through with her dad. She said it was hard at first but it isn't anymore. She isn't in therapy now, but she did see a T to help her through that time. But again, that was a long time ago.

Thanks for your perspective, Stormy. You're right, it DID feel like I became the support. Actually, I didn't offer support because it felt too awkward, but I wanted to and I feel guilty for not supporting her. I'm still not sure why she cried. She's talked about her dad many times without crying. Before last night I never knew she struggled so badly with major depression, but I don't see why that would bring her to tears 20 years later. I don't know.

I guess if I can't talk to her about it there is not much else to be done, but I really appreciate all the comments and if anyone has anything else to add I would really like to hear it.