sanityseeker..reading about your friend took me right back to a very similar situation. Wanting to apologize is not only a mature thing to do, it's good for your well-being, too. And it's a good way to let it go. Even tho it felt very personal, what your friend did wasn't about you, it was about her. Not being able to stop when you ask her to is a problem she has to deal with, if she decides to. Not a great answer, I know, but I guess I'm saying that if it were me, I would say I'm sorry for the unfortunate timing of the meltdown, but not feel guilty about it. And it's possible your friend won't apologize for acting like a bulldozer, but that's okay, as long as you do what you feel is right.