Just tell her exactly what you posted here. I wrote my feelings about T down and sent it to her, like I specifically listed the stuff I wonder about her. She did not indulge any of my questions (dammit ) but she said they were all normal things to speculate about her or any other person I ever meet, even if I met her at a party and and she wasn't my therapist. I wonder how old she is, what's her family like, what was she like growing up, what are her hopes and dreams, does she believe in God, what does she like to do for fun...those kinds of things. I told her I felt bad, anyway, for being "extremely curious" about her since this is not a "normal" relationship.