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Originally Posted by MELISSSAD81
So I had T today and she gave me a stern talking to about what she sees. and told me I needed to figure out what the real issue or issues are and bring them in next thursday when I see her. I'm terrified that if I cant figure out what they are she is going to drop me as a client and I dont think i can handle that right now. She seemed pretty upset or maybe she was just trying to shake me up so I would start talking. I was really quiet in session and couldnt spit out what was going on in my head. I cant imagine that being easy to deal with week in and week out for the last year. though she told me she wasnt frustrated Im not sure I totally believe her. that sounds horrible but really normally I do trust her completely with what she says...for some reason Im not entirely sure I believe shes not frustrated maybe because Im so frustrated with me I find it hard to believe no one else is. would i sound rediculous to call and ask her if she wants to give up on me? I mean I would rather know now than be trying to figure this out and at some point decide she can not do this with me anymore. Im so terrified to find out but I would rather know right now than later on. God this is nuts...why do i care so much bout where she is at and yet cant seem to care about me enough to figure out what is going on. maybe I should just give up maybe Im beyond help.
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Im going to take a stab in the dark here. Im both a client in the mental health system and also a treatment provider.
As a client I so know how hard it is to go to a therapist and tell them all the things bouncing around in my head. and not knowing quite what to say.
on the other end of the coin I know what its like to be a therapist and have clients who dont talk, dont telll me whats on their mind and dont tell me how I can help them.
what helps both situations for me is the saying, no body is a mind reader. in order for anyone to help me I have to tell my therapist what I need from her. in order for me to help my clients I cant just assume things. I have to wait for them to tell me what they need.
its frustrating sometimes from both sides.
we all perceive things differently, being that I wasnt there I dont know what words were said, but according to your post what your treatment provider wants form you is to know -
why are you in therapy
what can she help you with
what would you like to work on during your time with her.
the answers to these things dont have to be real hard, dig deep kinds of things.
theres a reason why you are seeing her right? you didnt just one day think gee I have nothing to do today laundrys done no shopping car works great why not go to therapy for the fun of it. LOL (as nutty as that sounds I have had a few people walk in just because they had nothing to do that day why not pass the time with going to therapy.)
so ok in one sentence why did you want to be in therapy.
examples -
I was depressed
I was having problems at work
I was stressed out
I was suicidal
I have a pre existing mental problem thats rearing its head.
See doesnt have to be a big detailed thing
after you have that step done take the next step lets take one of the above
I am depressed
how can your therapist help you with that -
referal to a psychiatrist for medications
need a place to talk about why I'm depressed
I would like to know how to handle my daily routines when I cant even get out of bed in the morning.
Can you (the therapist) teach me more about what depression is and ways to cope with it so that I can understand my disorder better and have survival tools for when it rears its ugly head.
see just take it one step at a time and as they say keep it simple, dont try to read a lot into what your therapist wants you to do. she just wants you to take the first steps of your treatment by deciding what you need her for, how can she help you.
there will be plenty of time to delve deeper into things after your therapist knows why you want to see her, what you need from her and how she can help you.
