My oldest just came home from college--- I found out he's hurting himself.
He told me last night that it makes him feel better when he cuts. I felt like someone had just taken my heart out and jumped all over it. ---- but at the same time I didn't show how upset I was--- as I didn't want my emotions to make him worse.

Please.... can anyone help me--- what can I say to him, as a mother?

He's very much a perfectionist, I'm thinking he might have some OCD. I'm so confused, he's never done anything like this before. Last week some friends had to hold him down to keep him from hurting himself severely. He's an "A" student and always follows rules-- this is so not at all like him.

Can anyone help......... I just don't know what to say.... I don't want him to feel worse.
I did suggest he try alternate things and to think of anything good that makes him happy--- or have a favorite picture nearby he can look at, or a favorite anything to help get past the desire to cut----- do you think it's OK that I said those things???

I'm so upset..... it makes me very sad
that he is so sad. I am trying not to put all the blame on myself--- as that's usually what I do--- I'm loosing the blame battle though----
just don't know what to do

Thanks in advance for any ideas, insight or support.

mandy