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Originally Posted by farmergirl
Me too. He is really good at just allowing me to be, you know what I mean? Sometimes people are too frantic to "fix" me, but t has never been that way. He's always my rock.
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Yes, people get frantic. That is a great word for it, and you end up soothing them. "It's okay....blah blah blah".
I personally really like the idea of sitting shiva. I'm very much of the "stiff upper lip Christian" ilk, but the idea of setting time and space aside to grieve and nothing else seems like a good idea to me.
The bereaved has no responsibility for others at all. If someone comes to visit, they aren't even obliged to greet them, if I understand the observance correctly. They cover the mirrors in the house so they don't even have to worry what they look like and don't even have to shower (or the observance has rules about that or something).
It just seems like the way to go for me.
Peace.