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Originally Posted by amandalouise
yes it is possible to heal. its all in the mind set of what each person considers healed.
here healed does not have to mean integration. it doesnt have to mean co conscious and it doesnt have to mean communicating with the alters. it doesnt have to mean no more mental disorder regardless of the disorder.
here healed means the client is able to have a normal present life without their past causing them problems. they are able to function and their mental disorders are stable not causing them distress in their daily life.
with DID some do choose or it automatically happens with co consciousness and integration for others they are able to learn other ways such as monitoring their triggers, then taking time to ground and calm their self so that they can continue on with their life without dissociating into alters.
if trying to develop communication isnt working for you then don't worry about it. approach it from the other side.. monitor your triggers and learn ways to over come those triggers or find some way that will enable you to remain grounded and continue on with your life.
The word healed is one of those words that are self defining. if you think you are ok without delving into the past and what the alters know then thats ok.
talk with your treatment provider. they will help you to have a happy, unaffected by DID life without having to delveinto the past by monitoring and taking care of the triggers.
We have many clients here at the crisis center and hospital for which there is no way to develop communication so we work on their triggers with them and they go on to have happy productive lives where their DID does not adversely affect their life.
yes healing is possible.
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Hi AmandaLouise,
Thanks for offering me your thoughts. I appreciate knowing that healing doesn't have to be a certai way or "all the way." But maybe it is more of a process then? To get to where you can function well and have a productive life, like you said, even a person doesn't go to the greatest depths and try to solve absolutely everything. I think that might be my problem, that i am thinking of it in black and white -- like i have to resolve every single thing to heal. And when i view it that way, it seems like a monumental task that i can't accomplish!! So thanks for helping me see that there is no one set way to heal for everybody. Yes, i just want to learn to function well within my capabilities, without my mental illness causing me so much emotional turmoil.
My t is pretty big on doing parts work because she can see that i have parts that are not integrated, that she calls "stuck in the past." They are very needy and fearful. It's hard for me to accept or communicate with these parts because i hate to feel their pain and neediness. I have started, with my t's help, to visualize helping them get unstuck from their traumatic feelings, but it often ends up feeling traumatizing to my adult self too. So it's just hard to do! Instead of feeling like a loving nurturer to my child parts, i would rather not be aware of them. But my t says learning to have compassion for them and communicate with them is necessary. Maybe i am just trying to take things too fast and need to slow it down a bit.