She sounds like a crappy therapist. I wouldn't trust her any farther than I could throw her. I have never heard of a T texting her patients and asking for help with her car. I've never even spoken to my T outside the office. Even if we see each other outside we agreed to not acknowledge the other person to not have questions coming from either side (like if I were with my bf or him with his wife). That is confidential stuff that needs to stay in that trusted relationship.

She does sound very manipulative. I only hope she doesn't do this with every patient she has. It really sounds like they have their own relationship! I wouldn't put up with this anymore. If he doesn't see your point when you present the facts to him (their texting, her telling him to flat out lie to you, him going over to fix her car) then he obviously doesn't care about your feelings.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this!