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Old Feb 10, 2011, 06:43 AM
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Originally Posted by farmergirl View Post
I guess I'm different. I don't spend much time worrying about my relationship with my t. I don't spend a lot of time analyzing everything he says and does. I just don't worry about those things.

I don't talk about my therapy with outsiders much. Mainly because why would the subject come up in normal conversation. I don't hide it either. It just doesn't come up.

What I do do is think about what we are discussing in my therapy. I journal about it and then I'm able to put it aside, live my life, and wait until the next time I see my t.

I guess I just don't stress about my therapy. My life outside of his office is busy and stressful enough. I don't worry about my sessions between sessions.

When I do need my therapist between sessions, I have no qualms about calling him, scheduling an additional session or talking to him on the phone. I rest in the knowledge that he is there for me with consistency. Ours is a calm, trustful, consistent relationship that I really trust entirely.

I feel bad for those of you that struggle so much with your relationships with your t's. I wish for you that you could just trust in that relationship and not have all the ruptures. If your t's are worth their weight, you can trust them to be looking out for your welfare and not spend so much energy worrying about that. And I do think they are worth their weight, but you have to learn to trust in that.
No, I don't think you are that different.

I'm like that now with my therapist and it's a lot of peace. It took some time to get there and, as you indicated, I had to learn how to trust in things.

Learning that was one of the most important things for my progress. I'm not an innate truster, but am so much better at it now in general.

I do think about things between sessions, I call whenever I need to and do a lot of work - in fact most of the work - between our scheduled times.

For me, it's been an overwhelming positive experience in my life. I really don't care what others think or understand about it.