Rapunzel,
I found out by him telling me-- we have always had an open relationship-- I think, at least I hope, he trusts me and feels comfortable to talk with me about his troubles. I have attempted to make my relationship with my children totally opposite of how it was with my mother. So, I talk with my kids about anything and everything they want to-- without judgements.

I wonder if the fact that he goes to college so far away from home has anything to do with all this........I had no idea he was in such distress--- school security involved and the resident therapist even-- of which, he has called me and we talked a bit. He wants my son to go on medication-- anyone know if medication will help with this??

Yes, that's a good point--- "cutting isn't really the problem- it's just how he's dealing with things"--- thank you for reminding me of that.

Thanks also for that website-- I will take a look as soon as I get the chance.

And thanks too for the offer to PM- I might take you up on that. I really appreciate your reply.

mandy