I don't know if I should really be dishing any advice but can relate to you circumstance.

Having separated in 11/04 then divorcing in 8/5 with 4 children I know what struggle it's been so far.

Finacially, try to save as much money as possible- you may need to replace things the ex gets to take.

Emotionally I think would vary whether you are the rejector or the rejectee but I think it's important to try and set aside your emotions before making decisions .

I did make my future a prority, child support won't last forever and I need to secure my life beyond children. I have always worked and quite my job making 30 per year to go to college as a FT student- I'm getting a BA.

So I guess I'm saying plan why ahead and make choices with an end in mind.