Hi - I'm new to this stuff... but am so frustrated, and need to talk to someone about my relationship with my ADD husband. He was diagnosed about 2 years ago after suffering a breakdown, of sorts. We have been through the gammit with psychiatrists, and drugs. He is currently on Wellbutrin, Effexor and Adderal. The combo seems to help him focus - but he is still so addictive.

We changes our lives in order to send him back to school to achieve his life dream - and he does well most of the time. What is frustrating me is his 'addictive' behaviors. He drinks (yes, even with the combo of drusgs he is on), then he lies to me about it - even though the charges are on our account. It's like he needs to have a vice. He needs to have something to feel guilty about.

He goes to the psych - not as often as he should - but he goes. However, I have a keen suspision that he is lying to them too. He is quite good at false impressions. He wasn't fully diagnosed with ADD until he was 35. He is very smart, and very good with people - most don't realize how scattered he is until they really get to know him or have lived with him.

My problem is that I love him very much - I honestly believe we are soul mates - but I can't seem to help him anymore- and he can't get it together to help himself. I don't know what to do at this point. I'm very tired, and very frustrated. Any advice out there from other spouses?