I am wondering if any of you have this problem. I have realized I'm a huge people pleaser. I just say yes even when I really want to say no. An example is this....my next door neighbors don't have a car or a phone. So they are always coming over to use my phone or to see if they can get a ride to work. One of them works about 6 miles away and it only takes about 20 minutes to take her to work but when I go to pick her up its about an hour to get home because of the stupid traffic. This morning I had to go get him then take her to work. I was told that when the semester ended they would let me be so I could relax and not have to worry about babysitting or being their taxi. They do pay me for gas for taking them to work and yesterday she bought me supper and cigarettes. Now that I have the internet she is asking me to check her email or to see if any of her friends are online. I like these people but am getting really tired of always doing things for them. I don't know how to say no I can't take you here or no I can't pick you up from work. I have always been this way and in fact my lack of being able to say no is how I lost my virginity. I didn't want to make him mad so I said ok. I've talked to my T about it and he is getting me a book on being able to say no. I am open to listening to suggestions.


Jbug