Dear Sam, (and all!) Thank you all for your great posts. There is some incredible wisdom on this site. I found everything helpful. To answer some questions: Yes, I did explain the fibro to my husband prior to marriage. He had to deal with migraines and pain even before we married. I even gave him the option to "opt out". He wanted to marry me anyway- and said, what kind of person would he be if he didn't take me the way I am. It was very noble, but like alot of our attempts to be virtuous- it fades in the heat of battle. The bottom line is that he withdraws from me if he knows I am hurting- emotionally and physically. He says it is my fault because I am cross when I hurt, but looking back on it- that is the cart before the horse.. I get cross when he withdraws. Either way, I am feeding into the game when I get angry. I don't drink wine anymore either. Alcohol is not a solution in any form for me. I will miss a cold beer on a hot day, but I imagine I will live! LOL

<font color=purple>Never, Never, Never Quit. -Winston Churchill</font color=purple>