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Feb 10, 2011, 06:51 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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I think your boyfriend is different from your stepdad in that he genuinely WANTS to save money -- he just cannot trust himself so he gives it to you. I think he wants to change, but something like that is really hard to change without therapy. You might suggest he get therapy if he can afford it. Make sure you let him know that it's because you CARE for him that you're suggesting it and NOT because you think he's nuts. LOL Perhaps you both could go to couples therapy. It sounds like you could use it. You have issues about him --- and he may have issues about you. So why not both of you go??? i think it's a pretty good idea if your relationship is going to last. I sure wish my first husband and I had gone -- we went to therapy after 7 years of marriage, and the therapist said something he didn't like and he got up and left -- never went back.  The marriage didn't last either. He was a jerk.
So it's best to find out now if this relationship is worth saving or not. Make a call to a good therapist and see what happens. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee
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