*Crickets*

Well, I guess I was at a loss for words, and so was everyone else?!

Here's my update:
After 3 days of mutual silent begrudgery (sp?)
I asked hubby to come with me to find gift for my Mom's b-day.
The ice broke during the trip and we were able to sit down and talk
calmly about the situation as a whole. We still don't agree on how that whole
argument went down, but he did apologize for telling me that some random person
said I was abusing him. This turned out to be one of his male co-workers that had previously talked about his own wife and how her depression had affected their marriage. And it also turned out that this co-worker "didn't exactly" use the words
that hubby said out of anger during argument. We talked about his apparent increased resentment toward me also. So life goes on....We're going to have a joint counseling session next week, we'll see how it goes. There is so much angst ridden
history between us, it's often hard to for each to recognize what issue is causing what resentment, emotion, mood, blah blah blah.

If there's anyone here that has been through anything similar I'd love to compare notes. Even with help from my T and pdoc, I'm having difficulty even determining what expectations are realistic!