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Originally Posted by Phoenics
I have problems such as: "I want to accomplish X" but in order to accomplish X I first to need to accomplish A, B, C and in order to accomplish A, B, C I need to accomplish D, E, F, which I don't know if I can or want to accomplish given my problems.
I have communicated these problems to my therapist but the type of "support" I get from her is along the lines of "it's great that you want to accomplish X" but beyond that she doesn't tell me anything useful. She doesn't tell me how to tackle A, B, C let alone D, E, F.
If I am not mistaken therapists are not supposed to impose their values on their clients, and should let them decide what to do with their lives, but this is getting to the point where I feel stupid asking advice to a person who is unwilling to give it.
Am I missing the point of therapy?
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Hi Phoenix,
I guess it depends what you want to get out of therapy - and all therapists (and approaches) are different... and not every type of therapy is right for everyone.
For example, there are therapists who specialise in CBT which is much more about changing your attitudes and behaviours in the here-and-now rather than delving into the past.
There are also "life coaches" (who are not therapists) who help you to achieve goals by making positive moves towards specific objectives.
You are right that most therapists will not offer direct advice/guidance.. (which can be frustrating!) they tend to be more interested in/focussed on what has brought you to the place where you are now, which often involves delving into the past and dealing with painful emotions.
It all depends on what you really want to get out of the therapy. Perhaps you could talk to your T again about the goals you are trying to achieve (within the therapy rather than in your life) and ask her how she thinks she can help you/work with you etc. It might make things clearer? And maybe she can suggest the best way forward or even refer you to someone else?
WG.