Thanks tamzinrose, I think that's a good warning.

Although, I have not and will not, let my son know how his self harming is affecting me personally. I don't want-- like you said-- the attention to go to me---- I feel he needs all my total attention and I don't want the focus on me.

I was just stating my feelings here on the board-- I don't think it would be right to put my feelings on my son.

However, that is something to keep in mind for anyone that has a loved one that self-harms.

I'm sorry your mom caused you to feel defensive and that you carried on cutting. I'm wishing you inner peace and healing.

Thanks for your reply.

mandy